If you’re a married couple caught in the cycle of never-ending shouting matches, look no further than Jan Rambo’s advice on handling marital conflict. The famed actor, known for his role in Baby Baji, recently shared his approach to diffusing tension during a heated argument with your spouse on a popular local chat show.
In his interview, Rambo observed, “Things get out of hand when both parties get angry at the same time,” and his solution to this common problem? Keep quiet. He advises men to stay calm and silent when their wives express anger. This, according to the actor, will lead to a swift apology and a cup of tea from the wife, the perfect reward for a peaceful response.
“Five minutes later, she herself will come to you with an apology if you keep quiet,” Rambo claims. “Not only that, she will also bring you a cup of tea.”
At first glance, this might sound like sound advice—de-escalating a conflict with silence could indeed provide some breathing room in a heated situation. But Rambo’s solution doesn’t end there. His advice delves into a rather troubling realm of gender dynamics, offering a less-than-balanced perspective on marriage.
In his idealized scenario, Rambo plays the role of the quiet, stoic husband who patiently awaits his wife’s contrition and soothing gesture of tea. However, his assumption that the wife will always be the one in the wrong and the one to apologize hints at an underlying patriarchal mindset.
This vision, where the man holds the moral high ground by remaining silent, fails to acknowledge that women can sometimes be right, and that men, too, might need to own up to their mistakes.
Rambo even warns of the potential consequences for the man who does not stay quiet: “If you also start shouting, your wife will pick up the phone and call her mother, and then her mother will say that she is on her way and come and visit you.”
According to Rambo, this chain of events would surely result in chaos, an unnecessary escalation, and possibly even a visit from the dreaded mother-in-law.
While Rambo’s advice might seem humorous to some, it raises important questions about how marital relationships are portrayed in media and how gender expectations shape conflict resolution. The idea that the wife must always apologize and offer a peace offering of tea may reinforce outdated stereotypes, rather than promoting a more equal and healthy dialogue between partners.
